Jurassic Park db forum

So, you might have read my post about being back. And I just dont know what the hell is going on.

Over spring break my GF basically put us on hold. She got a lot of bad news that week and it all just fell on her. Kind pushed her to tell me that she wasent sure what she wanted.

I take this pretty good, I'm mad and sad and all that at first, but I go we both go back to school not long after and everything seems normal. I still call her every day, talking like normal and stuff. Eventually we really get to talking about it againd and it hits me that we are done.

I take it harder this time, stop calling her but maybe 1-2 times a week. I figure I will hurt her this way, let her see what loosing me will do. Never really amounted to anything.


The problem is I love her, we have been freinds for like 4-5 years. So i dont get mad, I agree to be freinds and eventually school ends. We both come home. We hang out a lot.

Here is the problem. We cant keep our hands off eachother /wink.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=";)" border="0" alt="wink.gif" /> I think she is still attached to me. Which I like, becasue I want us to start going out again. So right now I have no idea where the hell we arew. We still go out to eat and movies and such, but I dont pay for her anymore. We have a good time and like I said, we just cant help some things...

its just such a weird place to be. I think things are better, but i have learned to not think that anything is getting better, becasue men can simply not intepret what women mean by their actions.

She is going to vietnam to visit her grandparents and stuff, for a month. We will pretty much be out of communication, which i think is good. Hopefully she will see how much she missses me.


IDK, i'm prob ranting at this point. For the longest time I thought I just needed to get a new GF, i have no idea why, must be instinct to get with someone new.

My dad was joking around today that thats what i should do.. Heheh

Bah, enough ranting,

~Tyler

Wow you and my friend are kinda alike. Except without the problem between the two of you. My friend is in love with a girl who is from Vietnam and recently she went over to see her parents.
The best advice that I can give you is to talk to her, but dont come aggressively towards her, the whole idea is to communicate with her, let her know you still have feelings for her. But all the while not smothering her, don't call her everyday, treat her like she is your best friend. You need to treat her the same way you treat your friends and it will go father, but include some special care once in a while but not all the time. Girls love it when guys treat them as their best friends but dont like over exertion. *An unexpected gift at an unecpexted time is the key to a womans heart -it works everytime* but dont send her flowers (this includes phoning and anything else you might do specially for her everyday) because you she will be come overwelmed and you can scare her doing that. I know from expirience, I called this girl I liked almost all the time and in the end I scared her away. She ended up not talking to me for a long time and now we are friends again, and I treat her as such and we get along great.

So the best advice that I reccomend is to treat her as a friend, and everyonce in a while do special things for her without overwhelming her. She will enjoy your friendship more than any gift you can give her. ]And the best relationships end up starting as friendships.

Everyone at my school calls me the matchmaker. Cause I hook everybody up with somebody. I feel ya there bro. IDK I would talk to her. Tell her how you feal or write it in a note. Myabe you guys could try going out again. Maybe just one more time like over the summer or soemthing. Hope thsi works out for ya!!

Thanks for the advice guys. I think after she gets back i'm going to tell her that I cant keep up with the *stuff* if we are not going to go back to dating. I'm going to tell her that I really want to stay friends.


In case your wondering, here is her pic
I cant resist her, that might be a problem. /smile.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":)" border="0" alt="smile.gif" />


~Tyler

now i see why

mmmm...

awwww. .that's so adorable /smile.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=":)" border="0" alt="smile.gif" /> /cool.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid="B)" border="0" alt="cool.gif" />

Hang on-her name isn't Emma is it?

jackola wrote:Hang on-her name isn't Emma is it?

No.



~Tyler

I must reiterate that you should just talk to her. However, don't do it as she's leaving, that'd just totally eff up her vacation. If she has a little bit before she goes to Vietnam, sit down and talk with her one-on-one at a time the two of you aren't all over each other. Let her know you still have feelings for her and would like to be back together with her, if that's what you wish to do. And, all you really need are a few sentences. You don't need a huge monologue. After that, let her know she doesn't have to respond right away, that takes some pressure off. Maybe even take her home after that and stuff. Hope things go well for you!